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In loving memory of
Joseph DeFeo
  • February 13, 1975
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  • March 26, 2020

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Joseph DeFeo , age 45, passed on March 26, 2020. He is survived by his mother, Nancy J. DeFeo, brothers, Paul DeFeo, Jr., Nicholas DeFeo and his wife, Nicole, Dominick DeFeo and Louis DeFeo, daughter, Destiny DeFeo Young, nephew, Nicholas DeFeo, Jr., nieces, Kayla, Brianna and Bella DeFeo. He is preceded in death by his father, Paul Nicholas DeFeo, Sr.

Joseph was the second born of the five DeFeo brothers. Joseph was not only a brother, he was first and foremost a son, a father, an uncle and a lifelong true friend to so many. He was also the family standup comic, he was loud and he was funny telling family stories when we were all together, of course he would always elaborate a bit each and every time he told the same stories. Joseph lived his life through a lens of determination and was always pushing through the next hurdle, the next challenge. Joseph’s strength of character and pure determination inspired all who took the time to know him. His talent for sales coupled with an entrepreneurial spirit which fueled  his passion and carried him through the difficult times in life. Joseph was a force of nature and physical strength both mind and body until his last day on earth. Never once did he ever complain during this last battle. He will forever be missed by his heartbroken family.

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  1. 14 May 2020
    Nancy defeo says:
    Hi mom, missing you so much Mother’s Day was not the same without you. You were missed not only by me but by your brothers as well. Left a huge huge void in my life Joseph. We all love you and miss you but we know you’re close by. Love mommy

  2. 15 Apr 2020
    Lisa Fiorilli (Rupp) says:
    "I am at a loss for words. I know there is nothing for me to say that will make your loss easier but know that I am sending you my love and support. I hope you can understand what I can't put into words." Keeping you and your family in my prayers. Lisa

  3. 12 Apr 2020
    Scott and Carol Kemper says:
    Dear Nancy and Family,
    We are saddened by Joseph leaving you. We know you will miss him more than words can say. Only Jesus can give you peace that surpasses understanding. We pray, in time, your hurting hearts will be healed, though we know you will never be the same.
    In memory of your beloved,
    Scott and Carole Kemper

  4. 09 Apr 2020
    Nancy posted an image:
    Joseph and his childhood friends at a reunion for his birthday weekend this past February
    Joseph and his childhood friends at a reunion for his birthday weekend this past February

  5. 09 Apr 2020
    Nancy posted an image:
    Joseph and Nicole, Nick’s wife at his birthday party. Nicole truly was a sister to him all these many years and she means her sister to all her husband’s brothers in the true meaning of the word sister
    Joseph and Nicole, Nick’s wife at his birthday party. Nicole truly was a sister to him all these many years and she means her sister to all her husband’s brothers in the true meaning of the word sister

  6. 08 Apr 2020
    Debbie and Vinnie says:
    Nan and sons
    We are so sorry , there are no words to take the pain away. Jesus can give us peace knowing that jo is not suffering and Is with the lord . Jo was one of a kind and that’s what made him so special. We love all of you

  7. 08 Apr 2020
    Debbie and Vinnie lit a candle:
    Lit since April 8, 2020 at 4:15:13 PM

  8. 08 Apr 2020
    Valerie Puglisi says:
    I have been friends with Joseph's mom for over 40 years. However, having lived in different states most of those years, I have not had the honor to know Joseph as the man with a heart bigger than life and who's love of his family ran as deep as the ocean. What a loss for me. RIP Joseph and may the angels carry you home❤️

  9. 04 Apr 2020
    Johnny Boy Telesco lit a candle:
    Lit since April 4, 2020 at 4:13:35 AM

  10. 04 Apr 2020
    Johnny Boy Telesco says:
    I love you brother. I will miss catching up with you every time we would talk. I’ll miss hearing you say “I got someone for you” and then telling me “were gunna hold off for now”. Ill miss hearing “Hey Johnny Run” I know you are free to be free now. Ill think of you often. You will never be forgotten. Rest in Piece Joey.

  11. 03 Apr 2020
    American Cancer Fund says:
    The staff of the American Cancer Fund at www.AmericanCancerFund.org is sorry to hear of Joseph’s passing. We have received a memorial donation in his name and our sincere condolences go out to his family.

  12. 03 Apr 2020
    Zach Foley lit a candle:
    Lit since April 3, 2020 at 4:14:32 AM

  13. 31 Mar 2020
    Nancy posted an image:
    Joseph and  Destiny last summer wow !! I can see the joy in his face that big smile
    Joseph and Destiny last summer wow !! I can see the joy in his face that big smile

  14. 31 Mar 2020
    Rose Foley-Colwill says:
    Nancy, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your son Joe. I have been praying for you since I heard. I know how difficult this time is for you and wish there was something I could do to ease the pain. He is where he is suppose to be right now. God has wrapped him in his arms and took away all his pain and now he is in a world we only pray about. God Bless you Nancy and your family one day you will all be together again. Rose Foley-Colwill

  15. 31 Mar 2020
    Nancy defeo posted an image:
    Joseph with his nieces on his birthday this past February
    Joseph with his nieces on his birthday this past February

  16. 31 Mar 2020
    Phaedra Tillman lit a candle:
    Lit since March 31, 2020 at 3:43:26 PM

  17. 31 Mar 2020
    carlotta weston says:
    May God Bless The Family And Keep Them In His Prayers

  18. 31 Mar 2020
    Taz Lang-Lemons says:
    Jojo!!! Until we meet again....
    Comfort and peace be with all family and friends.... cant really say friends, because everyone was family to you! Glad we were able to catch up recently... Fly high JoJo

  19. 31 Mar 2020
    Taz Lang-Lemons lit a candle:
    Lit since March 31, 2020 at 3:47:41 AM

  20. 31 Mar 2020
    Gary says:
    Our hearts are breaking for the DeFeo family. I know you All are a spiritual family and please know God is working 24/7 for y’all. Patty and I will do anything for y’all when you need us. Hugs and prayers And watch over us Joey ❤️

  21. 31 Mar 2020
    Gary lit a candle:
    Lit since March 31, 2020 at 3:09:04 AM

  22. 30 Mar 2020
    Dolly Jimenez says:
    Joe, You were larger than life with a huge heart for your family and friends. You were so charming and funny. You could talk anyone into doing just about anything. You made people laugh no matter what was going on, even if they didn’t want to. This is just a little of what made you so very special. I’m so sorry you had to go so soon. I will cherish our memories together and smile every time I think of you.
    All my love,
    Dolly

  23. 30 Mar 2020
    Denise Gore says:
    To my cousin Joe,
    You are soaring with the angels now and in no more pain. Although the selfishness in all of us wanted you here forever, your body just couldn’t anymore. I am so glad we exchanged texts and shared our fears together. May you Rest In Peace my handsome cousin. Until we meet again love your cousin Denise

  24. 30 Mar 2020
    Sandra Hidalgo lit a candle:
    Lit since March 30, 2020 at 3:28:58 PM

  25. 30 Mar 2020
    Dolly Jimenez lit a candle:
    Lit since March 30, 2020 at 3:12:21 PM

  26. 30 Mar 2020
    Dolly Jimenez says:
    Joe, you were larger than life with a huge heart for your family and friends. You were so charming and funny. You could talk anyone into doing just about anything. You made people laugh no matter what was going on, even if they didn’t want to. That is just a little of what made you so very special. I’m so sorry you had to leave so soon. I’ll cherish my memories of you and smile every time I think of you.
    Love always,
    Dolly

  27. 30 Mar 2020
    Marie Vega lit a candle:
    Lit since March 30, 2020 at 3:40:53 PM

  28. 30 Mar 2020
    Lisa Portman lit a candle:
    Lit since March 30, 2020 at 3:40:22 PM

  29. 30 Mar 2020
    Sheena lit a candle:
    Lit since March 30, 2020 at 3:40:12 PM

  30. 30 Mar 2020
    Nancy Defeo posted an image:
    Joseph photos with the family and friends
    Joseph photos with the family and friends

  31. 30 Mar 2020
    Marian says:
    I'm so, so sorry for your loss, Nancy, Paul, Nick & Nicole, Dominic and Louis -- I know there is a huge hole in your family. He will be forever in your hearts and you'll come to savor the sweet times and the laughter. God keep him safe with him. Rest in peace, and may perpetual light shine upon him.

  32. 30 Mar 2020
    Franky Foley lit a candle:
    Lit since March 30, 2020 at 3:59:33 PM

  33. 30 Mar 2020
    Franky Foley says:
    To the Defeo Family,
    Our sincerest sympathy at the loss of your son, your dad, your brother, brother-in-law, and uncle!
    We knew Joseph through his mom. We knew him to be the young man who walked right up to you, greeted you and introduced himself! We knew a very polite and gracious young man who was grateful for anything done for him! Even towards the end, Joseph was trying to help Elizabeth get a cart from the condo garage and still greeting us with a smile and hug!!
    We are ever so sorry for your loss! The Foley’s (Carl, Franky and Elizabeth)

  34. 30 Mar 2020
    Jen lit a candle:
    Lit since March 30, 2020 at 3:53:45 PM

  35. 30 Mar 2020
    Jen posted an image:
    In our hearts you will live forever, and will always be remembered as the charmer with a hearth of gold, always funny, and a true friend to all. We were so blessed to have you in our lives as our friend/brother. It is a honor and the memories will never fade because you always have been bigger and louder than life. Rest easy Joey
    In our hearts you will live forever, and will always be remembered as the charmer with a hearth of gold, always funny, and a true friend to all. We were so blessed to have you in our lives as our friend/brother. It is a honor and the memories will never fade because you always have been bigger and louder than life. Rest easy Joey

  36. 30 Mar 2020
    Stephanie Brown posted an image:
    Joe & Stephanie “Graham” Brown
    Joe & Stephanie “Graham” Brown

  37. 30 Mar 2020
    Jill says:
    Joe. My old dear friend. I love you joe. Your personality was so magnetic and charasmatic You’ve always been on my mind I’m thankful to have kept in touch with you you’ve left your mark joe. I’m so sorry life got you like that. But you fought like the tough Italian you are. Fly high Joseph Defeo. Watch over us save us seats. My prayers to you and your family today tomorrow and always ❤️

  38. 30 Mar 2020
    Mary Ann Liddy says:
    Nancy,

    I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet son. I think and pray for you often and know that Christ is holding him close, next to the warmth of His Sacred heart. Please call me for anything you need.
    Love,
    Mary Ann
    Our Lady Star of the Sea
    9 am Mass

  39. 30 Mar 2020
    Paulie DeFeo lit a candle:
    Lit since March 30, 2020 at 3:56:07 PM

  40. 30 Mar 2020
    Alicia Nigro-Balado says:
    You always lite up a room Joey. Between your huge smile and jokes you never met a stranger. Love, strength and prayers to all who love you. Rest In Peace....

  41. 30 Mar 2020
    nancy defeo says:
    Joseph, You fought the good fight all your life when no one know that you were. I knew. You were my bigger than life, louder anyone in the room, funny, generous, kind and strong willed boy. Your heart was so generous and life happens sometimes not the way we planned and sadly some did not know you heart. You had the "GoodFella" exterior to hide your hurts but your family and friends knew you and understood how gentle you really were. God created you and gave you to me for 45 years. He has you back now and I know you are finally finding peace and for that i am grateful. I will miss you forever mom and every day I will say "good morning mom" to you and will look for you in many ways during the day. I have your brothers and all our memories to keep me going until I see you again. love you forever and ever. mommy

  42. 29 Mar 2020
    Jennifer Frederick RN lit a candle:
    Lit since March 29, 2020 at 3:11:41 PM

  43. 28 Mar 2020
    Nancy DeFeo lit a candle:
    Lit since March 28, 2020 at 3:16:06 PM

  44. 27 Mar 2020
    Nancy deFeo says:
    Joseph I can’t believe I say that made it loud and you will be here.You’re my handsome, bigger than life, louder than anyone in the room so that they would listen to you, and beautiful sensitive heart, my tough guy you forward to End mom Your brothers and I will miss you they’ll be a hole in our family. You’re always so loud and so funny and have everyone laughing With all your elaborated family history stories at the holidays. I will love and miss you forever mom

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