EULOGY TO MY WIFE SANDY
April 23, 2020
I am not here today to say goodbye to Sandy. No, she is with the Lord Jesus in Heaven, and if I am good enough like she was, I’ll be there with her soon. I am here instead to thank her for all the love and happiness she has brought me since we were married forty-seven years ago. I am also here to express my love for her and to honor her life, so she is remembered by all who knew her.
Sandy brought happiness into our home, to me, my children and grandchildren, and to anyone who interacted with her. At least she tried.
All those who knew Sandy will agree that she was very considerate to others. She guided me and wanted to make sure I too was considerate to others. That was my Sandy, always keeping me in line with her no-nonsense ways and her unconditional love. She was kind, smart, loving, and compassionate; pretty much all the good words I can think of apply to her. She was everything to me, and I miss her more than I can bear. She knows that I love her, but I want to express to everyone how much I love her.
Sandy, I love you so deeply,
I love you so much,
I love the sound of your voice
And the way that we touch.
I love you today
As I have from the start,
And I’ll love you forever
With all the pieces of my heart.
Sandy was a dedicated wife and mother who truly loved her family. That is why she put in many years working so that we could take care of our children and our home would have all we needed. She did it all while I traveled extensively for work. Somehow in all that work and daily chaos she found time to be an amazing mother to our two children and the best wife a man could ask for. She rarely did things for herself wanting to make sure her family was happy and healthy first. She never complained about working to help me support us, she happily worked until she was able to dedicate herself fully to the homemaker role she loved and embraced.
I am now a broken man, and my better half is gone, but I can see her in my son Adam’s face and that of our grandchildren, and that gives me a little comfort. Having lost our son Ben in 2017 made me realize how important they all were to her. I remember how her face would light up whenever she would see them or talk to them on the phone. She was beautiful both inside and out, and when she smiled at me, I felt alive. I was truly blessed to have a wife who loved me and that I loved so much it hurt. I don’t know how I am going to make it without her, but I know she is up there telling me to be brave and stay the course. I am trying to honey, but it is hard without you here to keep me on track. I know that everyone loved her and is going to miss her sweet face as much as I do. Sandy was very talented. She was into crafting until arthritis took hold of her hands. I have never met someone who could embroider as well as she did. Some of her work still hangs in our home and will bring me comfort in my loneliness for years to come. I will miss her warmth and loving touch, and hearing her say, “Good morning honey.”
I think that she is still here with us all. Her family, children, and grandchildren were her life. She would do anything for her family. We all loved her dearly and I am certain there is a great deal of loss felt within those who knew her and were close to her. My Sandy was strong until the end, never losing her faith even on some of the most painful days before the stroke that took her. I have lost the mother to my children, my wife and support system, and most of all my very best friend. I’ll see you soon my darling.